In psychology, a first impression is an event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target (person, object, scene, etc.) being observed. First impressions are based on a wide range of characteristics: age, race, culture, language, gender, physical appearance, accent, posture, voice, number of people present, and time allowed to process. The first impressions individuals give to others could greatly influence how they are treated and viewed in many contexts of everyday life.
It is true that people judge you by the first time they meet you.They will form an opinion for you which may change in the future for better or worst.That, of course, includes more than one interaction.So why not give them your best you from day 1?
Your true self and all the virtues and talents you have.Sure not everybody will like you, and that definitely shouldn’t faze you.The real reasons for giving a great first impression of yourself are primarily two:
- Acquiring confidence in one’s self and being true to you and to other people.
Practise exertion of your magnificence and spirit as well as your many talents that may be blocked by stress, fear and anxiety about the upcoming event.
But that maybe all to spiritual and philosophical for your taste, and I will admit that sometimes you have to act or do things a certain way when you meet someone new.
That’s what I call fluidity and adjusting to the situation at hand.
So without further ado here what you need to understand to make a killer first impression:
Before going further down, you ought to set your focus and intention about the upcoming event.It is most important to focus on what you want from it, how you want it and how you gonna get it and accustom everything else with it.
Adjusting to the occasion and recognizing that whatever the social interaction is there will always be a certain energy, behavior, speech.Be very conscious of that and sometimes break the pattern if you must.
Is it a business event, or an interview?Are you having a first date with that hot girl from the cooking class, or is she taking you to meet her parents for the first time.Maybe you are just going out with some new friends you just met at the university or you are invited to a black tie event where many important people will be gathered and you start having second thoughts about going.
Relax and scroll down while reading carefully.
Dressing the Part
As I mentioned in previous articles what you wear represents strongly what you think of yourself, how you wanna be treated and how other people will perceive you.
”what you wear and how you carry yourself speak volumes”
Of course, nothing beats a strong, confident and whole character, with knowledge and a good sense of humor but wearing ”the right clothes at the right time” surely is better than wearing your favorite sneakers and ragged jeans everywhere.
Think about your ornaments.
Clothes, make-up, jewelry, watches, and shoes are all types of ornamentation and people definitely take these into account when making initial judgments. I highly recommend getting some of your favorite outfits or ornaments together and asking friends you trust what they think of when they see them. For many men, they do not realize that their watch can say a lot about them. For women, purses and large earrings or jewelry can also indicate a lot to a new person they are meeting. Make sure that what you are wearing and how you do your hair or make-up says what you want it to say to the people you are meeting for the first time.
Last but certainly not least is behavior and body language.
Body language is a crucial part of first impressions. Everything from your posture to how you carry yourself to the way you’re angling your body.Often, simply being aware of your body language can result in immediate improvements.Make sure you breathe properly deep into your core, letting all the stress leave your body, gaining confidence and groundness.When you have done that you can proceed to start a conversation, asking questions, making sure your give your attention and listening to what other people have to say.Being fun and entertaining as well as confident about who you are are traits some people have naturally.For others it takes practice, so it’s best to embrace the situation and the opportunity that is being given to you to gain those attributes.
And remember to keep it fun, keep it light and be confident that you will succeed your intention.