”Having comfort is an essential part of life. In comfort a baby can grow, a family can flourish. In contrast, comfort can be a man’s doom, making him stale and stagnant. The duality of comfort showcases both the need to have it, as well as the need to deprive ourselves of it, in order to grow and develop.”
There is a general misconception that life should be all about comfort. If asked, many people would answer that the best way to spend their time is in the security of their house and the abundance of resources. They try to avoid experiences that might result in tension and stress because they fear the responsibilities such actions bear.
Being financially stable & independent, offering your family good food and high education while having a good place to sleep at night is great. It is a goal worth having and something we all should strive for. The misconception lies at experiencing life as it is, often while working in a job you despise only to go back home and lie on your couch for 45 years until it is time for your retirement and pension to arrive.
Living in your comfort zone sucks. Living life in denial and fear isn’t living but merely existing. People who aspire to be secure are slaves to a false notion. It is against our nature to always live in security as it robs us of freedom. If people felt secure they wouldn’t lock their doors at night in fear of thieves, nor would they carry some type of weapon to defend their selves in the case of a life-threatening event. Living for security deprives ourselves of risking for something greater, testing our limits and living on the edge of our existence.
”Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”
The Need For Comfort
It would be great ignorance if the need for comfort was not acknowledged. In truth, we all need to be comfortable from time to time. We simply aren’t made to live in a constant state of war or in a fight or flight response for all our lives. Comfort like sleep is essential for a man’s life. The time we spend in comfort is the time we build a family, we relax and focus on our goals while recuperating and gain clarity in our thought process.
Ancient civilizations flourished at times of peace, not war, where education and arts could take place freely. At the same time, the population could rise, new jobs could be created and the economy could grow.
Prosperity is necessary for growth and comfort is its brother.
The Other Side: Surpassing Comfort Zones
In the same way, we need to feel comfortable and secure at times, we need to realize when our comfort zones are holding us back resulting in stagnation and loss of interest. If you want to improve your current state, you need to test your capabilities and limits. If you are to ever grow out of your circumstances and your hardships you have to be ok with being uncomfortable. Not doing the easy thing shows bravery and enhances your character. People who make a leap of faith in the creation of a new business, or a couple that decides to bring into the world a new life are courageous and not afraid to test their strength. A person who no matter the adversities still rises and elevates above his misfortunes creates his own fate.
As stated above in prosperity civilizations can grow. This happens because apart from the creation of more natural and human resources, exist people who are willing to surpass their comfort zones. People who devote time and effort on new inventions, innovations in technology and arts, science and education in order to see more of this life and influence the generations to come.
Learning To Be Interchangeable
In conclusion, I would like to invite you to be interchangeable between comfort and tension. It is a sign of wisdom to know when to relax and take a step back. When to rest and adapt to new circumstances while recognizing the season to be restless and work really hard. Be in the moment and feel what is best for you and the people around you. This may not be easy to master and at times you might be wrong. All these, are experiences and will further develop your character. What you must avoid is denial and going back to security when dealing with a problem or an unpredictable situation. Showing fear only breeds more fear so don’t be stale in your comfort zone and become the enemy of your own growth.
Having comfort and security is really not a situation but a state of mind. No matter how many resources or houses you have you will never be free and open to improvement if you are not willing to let go of who you are in the hopes of who you might become. We can never be sure or certain about external circumstances and outside factors. We can only be certain of our abilities and our actions. These are the things we can control and need to develop in order to be fearless when it is time to move out of our convenience and warmth. So the next time you refuse to lose your comfort ask yourself if this action is adding up to your freedom of choice or simply weakens it.
Learn when to be relaxed and when to take action. It’s up to you.
“Most people come to know only one corner of their room, one spot near the window, one narrow strip on which they keep walking back and forth.”
Rainer Maria Rilke